It's been more than four years since my 21 year old son Adam died in an accident. It hasn't been an easy road, but I want all those mothers who are grieving the loss of their child know that despite how you feel right now, there are better and brighter days ahead. Don't let anyone rush you, tell you to get out of your rut, tell you that you have to move on, that you have other people to think of or whatever other platitude comes to mind. Only someone who has grieved like us can understand how heartbreaking, how all-encompassing and how deeply depressing losing a child is, whatever the circumstance.
Eventually, you will be able to smile again; you will find happiness in little things; you will actually notice yourself enjoying life and doing things. I keep my son's memory alive by mentioning his name and/or talking about him each and every day. Some people used to be uncomfortable around me because of it, but I say, "that's their problem!". My son lived, loved and was loved dearly. It is my responsibility as his mom to keep his memory alive. I am so very proud to have been Adam's mom. He was my first born, he was my baby boy. He will always be a part of my life, his sister's life, his dad's life and all our extended family. Please do not give up hope - you will learn to love life again. Just give it time.

My son committed suicide four weeks ago, four days before his 20th birthday. My husband (my son's stepfather) is losing patience with my grieving and accuses me of using my son's death as an excuse to play martyr.
We're living abroad and I don't have any relatives here. I feel so alone in the pain I'm going through.

I found out about this group thru our mothers helping mothers group. We lost our dear loving 7 year old son 49 hours after my father passed away. On July 14, 2010. He was very loving and we miss him dearly everyday.

A friend of mine just told me about this site. We lost our beautiful daughter Amber on 10-29-10. Amber was our miracle baby the doctors told us we would be lucky if she lived past 2 yrs old, but GOD let us have her for 17 and a half years.I will never get over the loss of our daughter and will talk about her everyday til the day I go to meet her again.

I lost my beautiful baby girl, Emma, at 7 weeks old 4 years ago.
I am just beginning to really "feel" it and it is overwhelming.
I have not seen anything like this site in the UK. It is comforting to know that there are mothers out there who know how it feels
Jane

I truly know the PAIN that everyone feels on this site! I two have had a great lose my beautiful daughter and three wonderful grand-sons.Lost them all in a blink of an eye! The PAIN will never go away but i hope in time that it will get a little easy-or to live life and to be able to laugh again!! Blessing to all!!

I am so sorry for everyones lost. Everybody got years with there kids. I only got 5 1/2 months. That is how far along I was pergant. I dont get to see him walk, ride his bike, ect... I just wish everyday. I could raise him. to take good care of him. Dylan was my frist child. I really do feel sorry for everyone. I know how ya are feeling. I wish everyone the best.
IN LOVIND MEMORY OF DYLAN KIRBY

This is a very powerful site.... we lost our 2 sons, both at the age of 17, and the heartache never goes away...

We weep together...
we laugh together...
we hope together.

My baby boy